"It takes a whole village to raise a child?"

     Well another week has came and went and it is once again time for me to set back and reflect on the events gone by.  I have to admit, this has been an unusual week to say the least especially on Saturday when the world was suppose to end.  The one thing that I have realized over the week is that a lot can happen during that time. 

     Tonight on my way home, it was storming so I got a ride from a friend.  Come to find out, she is moving next month to another town and another county next month.  In a way, this is a sad thing because I just got to become her friend and I feel love for her family.  Of course, not only do I feel love from the family but being a single woman, I have realized that I need children of my own to feel what Charlotte from New York, and my friend from here feels.  I have always experienced it second hand but I know my time will come. 

     This brings up a very serious question and even though I believe I have the answer, I have to wonder if everyone feels the same way.  The question of course being, do we need to be with a spouse or in a relationship to have children?  Many people say yes but I believe different.  Part of the reason for me to believe that one can raise a child on their own is because the man I was suppose to have children with turned out to not be as ready as he claimed to be and in the process of proving that, broke my heart.  Also, there are so many single parents and parents who are married but still acts as if they are a single parent.  Raising the children while their spouse works to pay the bills and not asking for much help because they may feel a little intimidating   Of course I can only assume even though there is a saying about assuming.

     This also get's me to thinking about the old African proverb,"It takes a whole village to raise a child?"  Could this be because of the friends of the parents or is it because of family?  I like to think that it could be a little of both.  I have met Charlotte children as I have met my friend from here Julie's children.  I am seeing how they are raised and I understand how friends as well as family can shape them into the people they will grow to be.  Perhaps I am on the right track when it comes to having children and continuing with my own family.  I have got a good job so that I can work on establishing stability in the work place.  I also have my family and I am working towards making good friends like Charlotte and Julie.  Perhaps what I am doing is not only working on myself but creating my village at the same time. 

Until next time...Blessed Be

What can I do to make a difference today?

     Another week has came and went and I have to admit, it was not a bad week at all for me.  Work is going better than expected and I am starting to get use to the tasks at hand.  To me the job is easy just tedious at the same time.  That is ok as long as the time goes by quick and the job get's done correctly.  Like with any job, there are always a few that you wonder about because they do things different but the one thing that you should remember is; it shouldn't matter what anyone else is doing, as long as you are doing the best that you can do.  Because in the end, it all comes down to you and what did you do to make a difference that day or even that week.
     This can be said when it comes to personal life as well.  The person who gave me the bike made a difference in my life.  Now that I have finally started riding my bike it is only taking me 30 minutes to get to work.  Of course it took me a while to figure out the gears on the thing but as mentioned last week, "things have a way of working themselves out"  This week has not only been a good week at work but at home also.  Especially the weekend when I experienced something that was not expected.
     While I spoke to my friends throughout the week in New York City, it was my neighbor that needed my attention.  Actually not really my neighbor as much as his animals.  Again, the question of "What can I do to make a difference?" comes in to mind.  On Friday my neighbor came home after a night spent away, to find a mess that was made by his dogs.  It just so happened that I was walking my dog at the time so I was able to see that he needed something to help clean up the mess.  It also just so happened that I had something that would do the job.  Since I have always felt getting to know my neighbors to be a positive thing this also helped open the door even more to a budding friendship.  Yesterday and even some today, his cats kept getting out so I ended up kitten sitting while he was at work.
     His girlfriend came to his apartment yesterday and I gave her the kittens back but once again, they showed back up at my door while they where away.  When the girlfriend and the neighbor got home the second time I gave the cats back once again but I am starting to wonder how his girlfriend feels about me talking to him on a friendship basis.  I know my limits and am no longer that little girl that does stupid things but does the girlfriend know that?  I don't know about her past, and really am not trying to get to know her past.  I would be willing to get to know her now so she does not make assumptions.  I know from past experience that I would have a problem with my boyfriend talking to a female neighbor but than again, that is why I am single and working on my self esteem and me..  One thing I have learned is if jealousness enters into a relationship, then things become very rocky
     I did realize this week that I have finally started to move on from my ex in New York.  Not enough to be in another relationship but enough to perhaps hang out with someone as a friend, perhaps even go to a movie with them.  The one thing that I will not tolerate though is a guy trying to get my attention on the down low.  If they are trying to be secretive with me than they are not trying to be my friend and not worth my time of day.  Especially when it does not make a difference in my life.  I plan on staying focused, centered, and working on myself with the thought, What can I do to make a difference today?

Things have a way of working out

As I set here with my glass of wine, I start thinking about how the first week of orientation up until today went.  As I set and reflect, I have to admit that this week that has just past was a good week considering I was nervous.  I guess the first thing I should talk about tonight is how my job went because this is vital in my life.  Besides the fact that I had to be at work at 8am every morning, the orientation went well.  I met many wonderful people and even received a bike out of it.  The only thing is, I am yet to learn how to change gears on it.
     For the first week I rode the bus to the last stop which was about 20 minutes from my job.  The one thing I can say about New York City is it taught me not to depend on a car.  The nice thing about Texas though is people are very friendly and offer rides.  Need-less to say, I didn't have to walk much to my job.
     Going to work seemed to be fine but I actually had someone offer me a ride from work.  I of course refused and after I kept thinking to myself how just because someone offers me a ride doesn't mean they want something in return.  Perhaps in New York City it was this way but not here.  At least I hope not.  This could be a chance to meet the people I work with and that is one thing I would like to do is meet more people and make more friends.  I have since taken chances but only from people that I work with and of course I have a neighbor who I am starting to get close to on a friendship level and nothing more.
     The good thing about my job is I am making more than my previous job and I have a feeling I will be out of debt by next month with my everyday bills.  I  am also getting the confidence to talk to the people in this apartment complex and get to know them.  Even though things are going good for me here, I also needed to be a friend to Charlotte in New York.  Things that where going on in her life where bringing her down and causing problems with her and her husband.  She realized that she needed a job but it took me helping her realize that taking a job to help with the bills where fine and everything but she also needed to get one so she can have independence and not have to depend on her husband as much.  Charlotte has always given me strength, it was time for me to do the same for her and I did.
While watching the movie with Julia Roberts "Eat, Pray, Love" there was a scene where she was in search of a word.  So I started thinking of my word and I think my word would be a friend, or even a sister.  It seems I am more of a Diva and if I can learn to balance all those qualities together than I know things will always have a way of working out.
     Until next time....Be Blessed

Out with the Old, In with the New

     Another rainy Sunday and I am setting here thinking about where to begin.  There has been so much going on within this last week.  Some good, some bad, and some just indifferent.  The main thing is, things are not staying the same and of course the one thing that I am finding out is, where there is change, there is also feelings involved.
     For instance, I have been so nervous of starting this new job but at the same time I am excited.  I have been more than ready in fact and perhaps that frustration shown some this last week at my previous job.  The good thing about preparing for this job is it seemed to get me out and I am realizing that I can now socialize with the ones I use to work with.  That in itself is another set of emotions but lets stick with the subject at hand.
     Sometimes when we think about out with the old and in with the new, we think about it just pertaining to one thing but in actuality it could be more than one thing.  After all, change can sometimes be a catalyst that sets more change in motion.  This is basically meaning that since I got this new job, I have been inclined to have more of a social life.  This can also inspire me to "weed my garden of friends" if you will.  This statement in itself brings up the question:

When does a friend become a weed?
When I moved from New York City, I really had to reevaluate my friends that I left behind because I didn't want to get myself in the same situations I was there.  This is why I only think of Samantha, Miranda, and Charlotte.  Those where my only true friends in the city.  I also had friends outside the city that I hold dear even though I didn't get to see them on a daily basis.  They are to this day, helping keep me focused and centered.
However, I do have this one friend who has over the years became very opinionated about everything.  The only problem with that is this friend has also had the same thing happen time and time again.  Every time this happens, and excuse and what ever happened is swept under the rug.  As much as I want to continue being there for this person, I am wondering to myself if it is productive for me to do so.  Will this help me move forward with what I am wanting to achieve in my life?  I guess the big question is, how does this friendship affect me; does it help me progress or stay where I am?
     When I think of friends, I think of someone that can offer me advise or me offer advise from but not make our opinion seem like it is the only one.  Since I moved back to Texas, I have became even closer to Charlotte while becoming distant with Miranda.  Samantha is still very busy but I am starting to chat with her when I can.  Even my friends from outside of New York City and I are seeming to stay in touch and they offer words of encouragement when they can.  Only time can tell with my new friend Julie and her sister but they seem to have the good qualities needed in being a good friend.
     I guess I can honestly say Out with the Old and in with the New can be compared to weeding a garden.  At least in one aspect it can.  Life outside the garden can be just as exciting.  I have a good feeling about this new job and as I was saying about change.  It can lead to bigger and better things that can help me accomplish my dreams and goals and live the way I vision it.  Until next time....Blessed Be!